Woman finds out boyfriend lied about their meet-cute when he admits he orchestrated it after seeing her working, she questions their relationship: ‘I feel betrayed’

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
Jun 8, 2025 3:00 PM EDT

We all know how rare and far between 'meet-cutes' actually are. With the internet, dating apps, and our eyes being glued to our phones anywhere we go, it is a lot harder to just meet people authentically. People don't even know how to approach others anymore, and the internet has made sure we don't really need to.

That is why people love it when they hear of couples' meet-cutes. They met at a coffee shop, or on the train, he bumped her shoulder, she was mesmerized by his eyes, much more romantic than a message on an app, right?

However, I will take a message in an app any day over something like what happened in the story below. This girl thought she had the ultimate meet-cute with her boyfriend, but on their one-year anniversary, she found out he actually orchestrated it, and was aware of her for 6 months before he finally made a move. This led her to question their entire relationship, and I honestly can't blame her…

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    My boyfriend admitted he orchestrated our meet cute

    I have no idea how I feel about what he told me. I want to think it's cute that he cared this much, but it's just coming off as creepy and I feel lied to.
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    He got dank because we were celebrating my first successful day at my clinicals and he ended up saying something along the lines of "could you believe we
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    wouldn't be this happy if I hadn't watched you for so long?” To which I was confused and didn't know what he meant. Well I had worked at a local library for
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    two years, before we met, during college and apparently he saw me there but didn't actually talk to me, he just would watch me and listen in on my conversations with the
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    people I was checking out and my coworkers to figure out what I liked. Then he apparently followed me and found the coffee shop I frequented.
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    All this time I thought we had a sweet first time meeting story. He accidentally bumped into me, apologized, and offered to buy me coffee for the trouble. He told me what
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    he was ordering and it was the exact same thing I always get and I thought it was an amazing coincidence, I joked that it was fate and we spent
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    like an hour talking over coffee. I feel so stupid. Apparently it was similar to a scene in a book that I had read and told my coworker I had thought was cute.
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    I'm just so frustrated and angry. I feel betrayed, like why would you do this?? And how much of our year and a half relationship is a lie. Like it sounds like he was stalking me
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    Edit: Just so we're all on the same page, I don't believe he was watching me the whole time I was working there, I think it was the last 6 months or so before I
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    actually met him. He is a bit socially awkward, but he has a group of friends that he plays D&D and hangs out with like once a week. He's 25 and I'm 22 so it's not a
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    weird age gap. I have never really considered him going through my phone weird because I basically let anyone look at my phone whenever. I'm not worried
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    about anyone seeing anything. I've also never really been worried about my safety with him before, but I do know that he has anger issues and has gotten
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    in trouble for getting into a few physical fights, so for those of you worried about me I will be watching for any signs I might have missed.
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    I mainly am just upset because I feel like our relationship was built on a lie, even if it was a smallish one. He also said he was interested in a lot of the
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    same things I was when we first met and for a while he kept up with them, but lately he hasn't at all and I'm now wondering if he lied about those things too.
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    I definitely need to have a conversation with him and I'm driving home now so I'll talk with him when I get there. Thanks for the feedback folks
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    Edit: I was wrong. My boyfriend didn't do anything wrong.
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    MuriManDog14 Bro you dating joe goldberg or what?
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    hawthorne_rose It escalates. I know. I was married to someone obsessed with me "don't worry it's cute not creepy". Divorced this year and realizing all the sit I
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    turned a blind eye to. All the friendships I missed out on. And just normal loving behavior which I never experienced. Leave now.
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    Jakzsta Well, if he can lie about this and hide it for so long what else do you think he could be lying about? After hearing that, I would assume there would be more things hes been lying about
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    tygrrrrrrrr Go with your gut. This dude literally stalked you and manipulated you into going out with him. Like the other commenter said, he sounds like the main character from You (extremely negative)
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    MollysLemon Trees wt is with your update? Does he have control of your Reddit now?
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  • Hopefully, this girl will take the advice of people in the comments and not ignore the red flags, but who knows…

    What do you think you would have done in this situation? Let us know in the comments down below.

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